VIDBE-Q Volume 67 Issue 4
another life before my daughter, I too was an educator. I am engaged in the
activities of the school and classroom. I get to know teachers and service
providers. I ask questions. I am the involved parent who understands my
daughter's diagnosis. Most importantly, I am the parent that will go to bat for the
educators on Ivey's team. Nevertheless, as with all good things, I come with a
price.
I am the vocal parent with exceptionally high expectations. I am unafraid to
call an IEP meeting in the middle of the year. Not only that, I can read an IEP and
bank on measurable goals. I request all communication be in writing. Last but not
least, I am familiar with the laws under IDEA and expect IDEA to be
followed. Most people politely describe me as "transparent" because of my
willingness to be frank when it comes to the topic of education and deafblindness. I
have never, let me repeat, never, been willing to burn a bridge unless there was no
other recourse left in an arsenal of options. My philosophy is very simple, "We
draw more flies with honey than vinegar." For any IEP team wanting to ensure
student success, an involved parent is the key.
Actually, there is one more important component to include in this story --
my husband, Matt, aka, the voice of reason. He is my sidekick. As the handsome
sidekick, his role is to remain calm, play the devil's advocate, sit across from me in
